personal request

June 9, 2009
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For any in the CBB community that know me, or just want to be a blessing to another person, I have a speical prayer request. My married daughter has told me for the second time now that her husband is not happy and wants to call it quits. The first time he said this, he had his mother bring divorce papers over. (she works for the county and had access to forms) But my daughter called me and we talked and I gave her some ideas and pointers and she took them and they talked and decided they were “okay” again. This was only a month ago.

She called me again today and says “Mike wants a separation and he told me to call you and ask if I can come live with you”. Well it is my firm belief that I am not to interfere in their marriage nor will I be a helper to a divorce. They are young and have a young child and were bound to have problems marrying while still in high school. With a heavy heart, I had to tell her no, you have a home and a husband, and unless you are being abused, you need to stay there and work things out.

She called me back a little while ago and said she’s playing Christian music loud while cleaning her house and feeling better. She and her husband had an argument, and he’s mad at me because I won’t take his wife and daughter in, but she’s okay and feeling empowered. She said she has faith that God will do something so she’s going to wait and see what it is.

In the meantime, she has a copy of the Love Dare and intends to use it. It’s really kind of similar to the movie Fireproof so it will be interesting to see what happens here. Please pray for my daughter’s marriage. They’ve only been living away from his mom’s house for a few months and they really haven’t figured out what adulthood is all about yet. But their daughter is almost 3 and she needs a daddy and a mommy. Not a mommy and a grandma.

Thank you for praying.

  • Patti

    As always you know I will be praying and I applaud you for what you have said to Cassie. It is always heart wrenching to hear this sort of thing. I feel for Cassie right now but I DO agree that you are doing the right thing to tell Cassie what you did.

    It sounds like Mikes mom is being too helpful ( in my opinion too helpful in the wrong way) if she has brought divorce papers to Cassie already… She should be telling Mike that he needs to stand up to the responsibilities that he has. Sounds like the first sign of difficulty and he wants to leave…..He has a daughter he is responsible for now and in my opinion…his mom should be reminding him of that just as you are trying to share with your daughter that their little daughter needs both mommy and daddy.

    Its just sad that he wants to give up so readily on a marriage…That has to be immaturity talking…but I hope he will begin to realize that as a man, he needs to behave as a man and stay in the marriage and work through the difficulties whatever they may be.

  • Anonymous

    We should take thing calmly. Remember you wrote a blog on how the wise is patient in dealing with frustrations.

    Do not let anyone make you make ‘quick’ decisions. Give it a day or two to think things clearly and see the whole matter form top to end and hear both side of a story.

    Thank you for sharing you trouble with us. We will pray for you and your daughter and her marriage. Great blog. Keep up the good work and I hope all things become clear and resolved.

    Passerby

  • http://www.christianbooksbibles.com Heather

    Thank you for your prayers. I really appreciate them! Marriage is just too easy these days to get out of. Maybe if it were taken more seriously, young people wouldn’t be so quick to enter into it or call it quits. I just don’t know how to get them to take it more seriously. Divorce is so common, even among Christians.

  • stormylane

    Oh this is so sad.
    I pray this young couple will find it in their hearts to love one another. And remember “love” is an action word!
    At first, for many of these young couples it seems to be all about passion, infatuation & thrills. (i was there too at one time)
    But once all that fades a bit, is when we truly understand what commitment is all about. And then we can truly learn to love.
    I was in love with my husband when we got married almost 27 years ago.
    But today I love him.

    There is a Janette Oke book called Love Comes Softly, it’s one of my favorites. It was made into a movie a couple years ago.
    My hubby & I curl up on the couch & watch that movie together a couple times a year.
    There is a scene in the book (and movie) when the wise older friend is explaining to Marty (the new bride) that love isn’t always about fireworks… sometimes love just comes softly. I get all misty eyed because there is so much truth to that.
    Fireworks burn out. But that doesn’t mean the show is over. Sometimes, those fireworks are simply the introduction to a much great display!!
    I will be in much prayer for this young couple.
    And as Patti said, Mike’s mom is just to helpful. (for the wrong outcome)
    If Cassie continues to put the needs of her husband & home at the front of the line, (with prayer & service) Mike will soften.

  • Jan

    My husband, Randy, has been a veteran serving in Viet Nam and then was a policeman for 27 years in Seattle. From the Agent Orange damage in Viet Nam, he seems to tears his shoulder muscles way too much. He has had a total knee replacement and 8 shoulder surgeries already and is in desperate need of another shoulder surgery. Our prayer is that he has a complete HEALING of his connective tissue and the problems in his shoulders, both bother him – it’s just that one is much worse. He has been so depressed and just does not want to face another surgery and the slow process of recovery. I am very concerned about him. God Bless You and Thanks for your prayers, Jan

  • stormylane

    Jan,
    I have just added you husband to my prayer list.
    I’m so sorry that he is in such pain! I understand how this physical suffering to cause him to become depressed. Sooo many surgeries without complete healing, that would prove to be a heavy burden.
    Please keep us up to speed on his surgery & spirit.
    I will pray for you as well Jan. Your ministry to your husband is extremely important.
    I suppose it isn’t very easy to comfort a man in his shoes.
    We’ll pray for your strength as well.





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